How to Not Kill People

Have you ever been so angry that you wanted to kill people? Or perhaps you're actively killing and feel like you can't stop? Well, you're not alone; however, I encourage you to seek other options. We've all seen what happens when one loses control of inner rage. Take poor Nancy here for example.

Nancy from The Craft movie lying in hospital bed
Nancy in the hospital scene from 1996 film: The Craft

It may seem difficult at first, but by following three simple steps, you can easily quit murdering.

Before we move on to the HOW TO, let's dig a bit deeper into the WHY NOT?

Why You Shouldn't Kill People


Reason #1: Killing is morally incorrect

Hurting people is morally wrong. How do we know? It will feel wrong. Common post-murder symptoms include the following:

  • Anxiety
  • Racing thoughts
  • Nausea
  • Decreased ability to concentrate
  • Paranoid delusions
  • Increased or decreased appetite
  • Increased or decreased sexual desire and/or activity
  • Excessive drug/alcohol use

But what if you're incapable of feeling empathy or remorse? Perhaps you're a sociopath or psychopath. Or perhaps you've just been conditioned by a capitalist society that promotes independent gain to such extremes that you've completely lost touch with Nature’s laws of interdependence and thus your ability to connect with and feel for others. In that case, we move on to . . .

Reason #2: Killing is illegal


Even if you lack the capacity to empathize, the law still applies to you, and sitting in jail or receiving a death sentence is not ideal.

There are many reasons not to kill, but for the sake of time, let's cover just one more.

Reason #3: Killing creates disorder

Can you imagine the chaos that would ensue if everyone went around killing whomever they wanted? For example, say you're riding your bike to work, and someone in a car runs a red light, nearly hitting you. You catch up with the car at the next red, pull open the driver’s door, and beat them to death with your steel bike lock. Traffic at this intersection is at a standstill for hours as the police, paramedics, hazmat team, and road cleanup crew perform their required duties. There is no way to predict the disorder this traffic jam will cause. At the very least, the barista who was driving behind the murder victim is late for her opening shift at Starbucks, causing another halt in a most integral part of societal functionality:
caffeine consumption.

Now that we've established WHY you shouldn't kill, let's proceed to HOW to not kill.


Three Simple Steps

Step 1: Commit to not killing just for TODAY

Going murder-free is a big change, and big changes don’t happen overnight. In fact, I would like to take a moment to congratulate you for making it this far in the HOW TO NOT KILL PEOPLE instruction manual. Congratulations.

Moving on, let’s discuss this first step. Committing to lengthy goals can be discouraging and often leads to failure 😔 You may have heard of “SMARTER Goals.” This guideline is often used to help establish effective goals that lead to success 😃 Let’s look at how this first step adheres to the “SMARTER Goals” guideline:

S (specific) – “I will kill less this year” is not specific enough. “I will not kill [at all] today” is very specific.

M (meaningful) – This is the WHY of your goal. We covered this in the previous section. Please review.

A (achievable) – Setting a goal to never kill again is ambitious, but is it realistic? Start small. Take it one day at a time.

R (relevant) – This is likely the toughest one to narrow down for murder-prone individuals. The desire to kill people overshadows what it is you truly want in life. Killing people is a superficial solution to an underlying problem that will never be solved until you wash away all that sticky blood.

T (timed) – When? Today! No killing today!

E (evaluate) – It’s important to keep track of your progress. Have you killed anyone today?

R (readjust) – If you are continuously achieving your goal, it may be time to set a longer-term goal. If committing to an entire day is not working, perhaps start with a specific number of hours.

And with that, we can move on to the second step in not killing people.

Step 2. Write it down

When I said “easy,” I meant it. By simply writing down your goal, you increase your chance of success by up to fifty percent. *


(*Statistics derived from data collected by Cosmopolitan magazine quizzes.)

A written note that says "I will not kill anyone today"

You have made it to the third and final step of not killing people. Good work. I will provide more positive reinforcement later.

Step 3. Do something else

All of the time you spend doing something other than killing is time not spent on killing. Your desire to kill stems from something deep inside of you. Perhaps you have experienced (or are experiencing) trauma that has fostered an inner rage. Rather than letting it consume you, you can use it to fuel you.

Channeling your rage creatively or physically, for example, not only prevents murder but can also be productive and/or rewarding. You could take up a sport or maybe enroll in an online sketching class.

Here’s a sketch from an anonymous sender.

Looks great, Sam Samuels from Toronto, Canada. Glad you’re doing well.

Stay tuned for more ideas on murder alternatives. For now, try brainstorming two or three ideas for yourself.
Congratulations. You have reached the end of the HOW TO NOT KILL PEOPLE instruction manual.
Good work.